Mõtted sildiga: olemine

Composing A Life vol 3

The fine old idea of a path and a commitment turns out to be illusory for many people, not only for geographical and political refugees but for cultural refugees displaced by the discontinuities of custom and economy. Even those who continue to wear the same professional label survive only because they have altered what they do. Being effective as a banker or a restaurateur or a general means that one has relearned one’s craft more than once.

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Lean In vol 4

(Dr. Peggy McIntosh) explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recogntion, they feel underserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achivers, even experts in their fields, women can’t seem to shake the sense that it is only a matter of time until they are found out for who they really are—imposters with limited skilles or abilities.

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Composing A Life vol 1

Today, the materials and skills which a life is composed are no longer clear. It is no longer possible to follow the paths of previous generations. This is true for both men and women, but it is especially true fo woman, whose whole lives no longer need be dominated by the rhythms of procreation and the dependencies that these created, but who still must live wiht the discontinuities of female biology and still must balance confliciting demands. Our lives not only take new directions; they are subject to repeated redirection, partly because of the extensions of our years of health and productivity. Just as the design of a building or of a vase must be rethought when the scale is changed, so must the design of lives. Many of the most basic consepts we use to construct a sense of self or the design of a life have changed their meanings: Work. Home. Love. Commitment.

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Südikus vol 4

… et südikus tõesti suureneb sedamööda, kuidas me hakkame aduma oma elufilosoofiat, õpime pärast ebaõnnestumist ja pettumisi end taas jalule ajama ning omandame oskuse teha vahet madala ja kõrgema taseme eesmärkidel. Küpsemise versiooni olemus seisneb selles, et vanemaks saades kujundame me endas oskuse säilitada kirglikkust ja visadust ka pikemas perspektiivis.

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Lean In vol 3

Professional ambition is expected of men but is optional—or worse, sometimes even a negative—for women. “She is very ambitous” is not a compliment in our culture. Aggressive and hard-charching women violate unwritten rules about acceptable social conduct. Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and poweful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay social penalty.

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