Esimese asjana on vaja loobuda arusaamast, et millegi kaotamine tähendab seda, et miski on “valesti” läinud. Midagi pole valesti läinud. Kaotus on elu vältimatu osa.
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Mõtted sildiga: olemine
Kuidas leida seda “õiget” vol 1
Oleme nii haaratud kollektiivsest õnneliku lõpu müüdist, et ei märkagi kõiki neid kaotusi, mida see õnnelik lõpp eeldab. Tõde on see, et iga asi, mille võidame, tähendab millegi kaotust.
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Lean In vol 15
Now we know that women can do what men can do, but we don’t know that men can do what woman can do.
Gloria Steinem
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Lean In vol 14
Careers are jungle gym, not a ladder. (Pattie Sellers)
…ladders are limiting—people can move up or down, on or off. Jungle gyms offer more creative exploration. There’s only one way to the top of the ladder, but there are many ways to get to the top of a jungle gym. /…/ Plus, a jungle gym provides a great views for many people, not just those at the top. On a ladder, most climbers are stuck staring at the butt of the person above.
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Lean In vol 13
Whenever possible, women should substitute “we” for “I”. A woman’s request will be better recieved if she asserts, “We had a great year,” as opposed to “I had a great year.”
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Lean In vol 12
When a man helps a colleague, the recipient feels indebted to him and is highly likely to return the favor. But when a woman helps out, the feeling of indebtedness is weaker. She’s communal, right? She wants to help others./…/ Even more fustrating, when a woman declines to help a colleague, she often receives less favorable reviews and fewer rewards. But a man who declines to help? He pays no penalty.
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Lean In vol 11
As a girl, you know that being smart is good in lots of ways, but it doesn’t make you particulary popular or attractive to boys.
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Lean In 10
If a woman pushes to get the job done, if she’s highly compentent, if she focuses on result rather on pleasing others, she’s acting like a man. And if she acts like a man, people dislike her.
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Lean In vol 9
When a man is successful, he is liked by both men and women. When a woman is successful, people of both genders like her less.
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Lean In vol 8
You have to take oppurtunities and make an oppurtunity fit for you, rahter than the other way around.
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Composing A Life vol 8
Traditionally, women expected inequality in marriage, looking for husbands who were older, taller, richer, and more intelligent than themselves. Not surprisingly, these same husbands continue to earn more and expect their careers to take precedence. We used to be taught to avoid even the appearance of equality lest it threaten the marriage and lead to competition and conflict. Today, women seek equality, but the male game of “Anything you can do, I can do better” makes for a dull world.
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Lean In vol 7
And in situations where a man and a woman each receive negative feedback, the woman’s self-confidence and self-esteem drop to a much greater degree.
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Composing A Life vol 7
American men a firmly encouraged to move away from closeness to their mothers, with really strong ties considered slightly pathological, not quite manly.
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Lean In vol 6
Ask a man to explain his success and he will typically credit his own innate qualities and skills. Ask a woman the same question and she will attribute her success to external factors insisting she did well because she “worked really hard,” or “got lucky,” or “had help from others.” Men and women also differ then it comes to explaining failure. When a man fails, he points to factors like “didn’t study enough” or “not interested in the subject matter”. When a woman fails, she is more likely to believe it is due to an inherent lack of ability.
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Composing A Life vol 6
Women have traditionally been regarded as conservative and inclined to stay at home. Going forth to seek adventure as been regarded as male speciality—running away to sea, joining the circus, seeking new worlds to conqure. But conquest is not the best route to learning.
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